how to shower while your baby is awake, because all moms deserve not to stink!
Early on in my pregnancy I learned that other moms thought showering was impossible. I didn’t understand this idea. The baby sleeps. There is a crib. So, what’s the hold up? But then we came home from the hospital and I found myself wandering around my house in my robe, totally frumpy and gross but spending nap time researching breastfeeding, doing laundry, unpacking my bags, and texting my friends to update them about our new baby. My mom came over and said, “Go take a shower, put on some lotion and get dressed like you usually would. You need to have some normalcy.” Haha! It’s so funny to look back at that memory from my first few days as a mom, but that was some of the very best advice I have heard! When I took the time to take care of myself I felt ready to tackle the world. If our biggest event of the day was going on a walk I at least felt like myself if I had taken a shower and got dressed like a normal person.
I know some stay at home moms live in the uniform of a pony tail and pajama pants, and I have my days for sure! For a regular routine, I really don’t like that. I think all moms deserve the time to shower and throw on some mascara or whatever suits your style. So, how do you make it work if your baby only naps for 20 minutes at a time? Or you have multiples? Or if you have a baby and big kids?
I only have one 9 month old for now, so I’d love to hear your ideas for a toddler and a baby! Here’s how I have managed so far:
Newborn Stage: Bouncy Seat
First of all, if someone offers to help TAKE THEM UP! I know most moms want to do it all and be there any time their baby fusses, but go take a bath. Use some bubble bath, shave your legs, take your time, your baby will be fine! I let my mom and dad help for the first 2 weeks if my husband wasn’t available. I am so grateful for their help and I know not everyone has that availability. If you do not have help as an option, and you baby doesn’t nap long the bouncy seat is your solution. Our bouncy seat had a vibrating seat and I could pop the pacifier back in her mouth from the shower as needed. This is a tired and true solution, even my mother in law mentioned that she did this with my husband when he was a newborn 30 years ago.
3-6 months: Exersaucer or Jumper
We started using the Exersaucer when Baby Babe was around 3-4 months old. We rolled up a thick knitted blankie to tuck into the space around her belly and it kept her more stable while standing. She loved to stand and had excellent head control so I felt safe trying it out while I watched her until I knew she could stand to play on her own. Once she was very stable I was able to play peekaboo and check in on her while I took a REAL shower- hair, shave, conditioner… it was like being at the spa! Some babies will be content in the jumper or Exersaucer past 6 months old, but Baby Babe started protesting and seemed to feel trapped so we had to stop using it.
6-9 months: Mommy & Me Bath
This is our current stage and it’s going great. If I can shower at night or nap time once she’s in bed I don’t have to do a Mommy & Me Bath. Most nights once she’s down for bed I’m busy doing chores or too tired to take a shower. Baby Babe really likes taking a bath with me and I see it as a bonding experience and a learning activity. She plays with toys and splashes and I don’t have to fight the battle of making her sit down every two seconds. When she’s in the tub alone all she wants to do is stand but if she’s in there with me she will sit and play. I think it saves me some time too! One bath, two clean bodies!
I’m not sure what comes next. I’ve tried letting her play in my bathroom while I shower but I don’t really want her having a free for all, especially since I haven’t baby proofed my closet and bathroom. What did you do for you 9-12 month old? When did you stop having to supervise your baby while you showered? I would love to hear about your experiences!Share it!